不要“结构化”你自己、生气不是坏事

astral_wind

一位老师推荐阅读Datre的《生气不是坏事》，但是Datre英文原版是没有标题的，译者的中文版里也没有添加这个标题，所以根据目录或关键词搜索是找不到的，可能是这位老师自己的理解。

该篇对话在王新建老师翻译的207篇对话第150篇“时间跨度大约是3秒钟”第4个问题，在QingQing老师翻译的234篇对话第20篇“不要结构化你自己”。

这里把原文和两种译文都分享出来，方便各位老师查看。

astral_wind

JOHN: And he further goes on to ask... "I feel very much that I create my own reality and I try to remain objective and neutral about situations and feel it helps me a lot."

DATRE: Objective and neutral, why do you have to remain neutral? You're 'structuring' your self. Why don't you leave yourself free to express? Neutral is not going to do it. If you are angry, what good is neutral going to do you? Neutral is going to cause all kinds of stress and anxiety. Why is it so bad, shall we say, for people to get angry?

I can tell you, this channel gets angry. She does not sit around and think about it. If she is angry with an individual, she will tell that individual. She put that in front of her, to learn something. This happened just recently to her from someone she was working for. That person got mad because she quit to take a better job. Now, that person was not nice to her, because she quit her job. And this channel got angry and told her off because she did not deserve to be treated the way she was being treated by that individual.

Now, that did two things. The channel learned a great lesson because, this is the second job in a row that she has been taken advantage of, simply because she has allowed them to do it. She has over extended her self to help other individuals and they have not appreciated it. And the realization came, that she was doing them no favors. But you see it had to happen to her twice for her to get the message.

You see, we watch this channel, because you think you've got a hard time learning, we are twice... fifteen times... a hundred times harder on her, in her situation, then we are on anyone else. And she knows it. But she learned a very great lesson, because she was not helping these other peoples by being good to them. Over extending her self to help them when it was not appreciated.

So, she goes onto another job, but she knows one thing, 'I will do everything I do to the best of my ability in happiness and provide a smile for all those that I meet every day, but I do not have to go any further'. There are great lessons to be learned. This is one way to learn them. But, you see, by her anger, she released all the tensions and the toxins built up in her body. In her anger, if she had turned to a friend and told the friend of her anger toward a previous boss, what good would it have done her? She still would have seethed inside.

We're going into a new Millennium, 'walk the talk', 'be who you are'. And whether people respect you for it or not is unimportant. But respect your self first. Then in respecting your self, if they don't respond, it does not matter. You put that person in front of you to learn, that's why you put them in your life. If they weren't there, how would you learn? It’s a great big picture. And the more you learn what the picture is all about, the greater the learning experience. Continue.